A Tiger By The Tail

You might have heard, the world's greatest golfer has had sex with several women. Apparently, this is a surprise to a majority of the world, proof that the majority haven't the slightest idea about anything. Perhaps I can open your eyes just a bit.

The typical man will have sex, with a woman he finds attractive, whenever the opportunity arises. Nearly 100% of men can be considered "typical" if you replace "a woman" with "anything." The only limiting factors are attraction and opportunity. Anyone who tells it different... Let's just say, you might want to check their cell phone. Having never been a woman, I can only use my own experience to assume most women exhibit the same behavior.

Some people are extremely narrow-minded when it comes to attraction, and have very limited opportunity. Rest assured, actually, this should keep you awake at night: if the attraction is strong enough, the opportunity will be found. This is nothing new, no sign of the impending apocalypse, no statement on morality in America. Marital infidelity has existed as long as the institution of marriage. It is no worse now than it was 20 years ago, 200 years ago, 2000 years ago. Except now it's "news."

Looking at the Tiger Woods situation, no one should be surprised. When it comes to opportunity knocking, his door probably has a hole worn through it. He's traveling unsupervised, and he's successful, talented and attractive. Given the opportunity, most women would jump at the chance for a night with Tiger. Hell, I'd jump at the chance if I thought he could teach me how to hit a low draw. No matter how particular he is, every day he will have the opportunity.

This problem of infidelity, if it can really be considered a problem, will not go away on its own. Something has to change first. Evolution could bring about the necessary changes in human behavior, although that is unlikely. The only change, likely to fix the problem, involves the concept of marriage. The "one size fits all" union has never worked and never will.

Most of us need some type of transportation. Maybe you need a pickup, a sports car, a sedan, a mini-van or an SUV. Toss in a few more categories and you can meet the transportation needs of everyone. Yet, there are over 30 companies selling several hundred different models of vehicles. When you add in color and options there are millions of choices available to each of us. When it comes to a family, we have two choices: get married to someone of the opposite sex, or don't get married. Everyone is different, every union is different, all marriages are forced to be the same.

If you're in a perfect union, neither person has ever, nor ever will, desire anything outside the home, enjoy your elite status. Just make sure to keep those opportunities limited. Instead of selfishly flaunting your own joy, how about allowing the other 95% have the chance to achieve their own marital bliss? This isn't just about same-sex marriage, it's about making marriage fit reality.

Twenty years ago I had a friend that lived with two men. She had needs and each man fulfilled some of those needs. In addition she had at least one woman and one other man, who also helped meet those needs. Everyone knew the situation and their place, and for the time I knew them, everyone seemed genuinely happy with the arrangement. Another couple I met had been married for over 30 years and were about to get divorced. Sex had disappeared from their lives and they found no joy in each other. They started going to an adult social club (swinger's club) and within a month their sex life, with each other, was better than it had ever been. That was over 10 years ago. Today, they look younger than they did then, are incredibly happy, and enjoy every moment they have together.

Look at your friends and family. Several of the people, you come in contact with on a regular basis, have non-traditional sexual activities. It makes them happy and keeps them together. Yet, if others were to find out, their lives could be ruined. They would be shunned by friends and family, jobs might be lost, reputations destroyed. All because the world refuses to let them find their own happiness.

Let Tiger and his wife alone, so they can find their own resolution. Let others find their own solutions and don't judge them for being different. There, that should alienate just about everyone.